Life Fulfillment Wheel
IT STARTS WITH YOU
All good coaching conversations start with the client’s awareness of how day-to-day actions and feelings are affecting their life. There are many versions of this kind of ‘wheel’ to investigate various categories. After ten years of coaching, particularly working with those age 50+, my wheel has evolved to the drawing presented here. Read further down for descriptions of each area.
Exercise: Contemplate your fulfillment (satisfaction) in each of these areas. Mark them on a scale of 1-10, 10 being extremely fulfilled, or percentages (ie, 70% satisfied) or draw a pie shape, filling in slices with different colours…get creative!
Next: imagine what needs to change to increase levels. Don’t think too much about it, just quickly jot down a ‘wish list’ of how you would like things to be. While we can try to influence people and situations around us, the power of change lies within us, to imagine how we can change our attitudes and actions to bring about the kind of results we want.
The results may surprise you and it could be beneficial to discuss them with someone. If improvements are desired, send me a note and we can set up some coaching sessions to work through this. Coaching is a mindful process for facilitating change – welcome this opportunity to consciously curate your life.
At the heart of a well lived life is a thriving person, who is able to live with ease (a feeling of equanimity) and is engaged through a sense of meaning (what is important to pursue).
Here we start with our ‘lifework’, our daily effort. Essentially there are two kinds: money generating and non money generating. Job/Career work takes up a lot of our time and focus, and this greatly impacts our wellbeing. In the second category, it is interesting to think of all the ways we exert energy in life, from our home tasks, to having fun, to contributing to others.
Money makes the world go around, as the saying goes. Our finances impact all areas of our engagement and related causes and effects. We spend it and we save it. Is the flow of cash and the approach to savings reflecting who you are becoming as you age?
We need a safe, comfortable space to inhabit. This can mean the very roof that you sleep under, as well as the streets in your neighbourhood and indeed the environment of your town, province and country. Assess with these inner and outer lenses how your ‘home’ is a great fit. Project into the near and far future – how will it serve you then?
Although the pandemic may make this seem otherwise, we do not live in a vacuum. We are constantly relating to others and we affect them as much as they affect us. I separate relationships into two categories: our personal and professional connections (friends, family, colleagues, community…) and support network (who do we lean on when we need help, such as key connections, people in our community and professionals (medical, financial…) And with either, these people must foster growth within us, and we do for them as well. Otherwise, we drain each other. Identify gaps in these two networks, and who is supportive and who is not.
There are several aspects to body health – mental, emotional, physical, spiritual.. We suffer when these are not aligned and yet we can easily ignore them. What parts of your health are at a deficit and need care now? Look past being able to ‘cope’ and shift into ‘thriving’ mode. An important conversation that extends from health is the one condition we all will face: dying and death. How prepared are you for this eventuality and what conversations need to take place?
In your exploration, consider how the categories in this wheel affect each other.
Another angle can be to imagine each category as having an inner component (self-identity) and an outer component (beyond self-practical)